When did struggling become such a bad thing?
The other day my son had several of his friends over. When one of the parents came to pick up his son, I noticed something that caught my eye. This father was standing patiently beside his son as his son struggled to open our gate to the driveway. His son lifted, pushed, struggled and yanked at that gate handle. The father just waited. As I watched this take place the father lifted his head and smiled back at me. He was allowing his son to struggle.
Eventually after what seemed like 5 minutes (but really was 30 seconds) his son opened the gate on his own and off he went to his vehicle.
So many times in life we just do everything for our kids. We help them when really they just need to do it themselves. As parents we think we are doing a service for our kids, but in all actuality it is a disservice. We intervene way too much.
My kids attend a Montessori school here in town, and the lessons that they learn every day are just like this one that I witnessed. It is okay to struggle. Struggle teaches us patience, determination, perseverance, flexibility and critical thinking. Struggle is an important life lesson that I can very easily steal away from my children.
As adults, we must learn the virtue (prudence, justice, temperance, courage, faith, hope and love) within the struggle. Struggles teach us valuable lessons. Struggles can lead us to trust in God.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Without struggle, we eliminate a beautiful gate that leads us into God’s glory. Without struggle, we ruin the amazing journey that God wants us to bear. Without struggle, we will build a world of entitlement and selfishness; in other words a world without a need for a God.
Struggle is good. Struggle leads to righteousness.