The other day, I was headed to a meeting. Not just any meeting, but a first time, new faces kind of meeting. Do you know what I am talking about? That first meeting where people judge you based on your appearance and the first words that you utter will stick in their brain forever. My rule of thumb is to stay quiet, listen and absorb. That way no judgments can be made about my words, except that I might seem shy and quiet (which is so far from the truth). Anyway, the entire drive to the meeting I kept telling myself I wasn’t good enough, I didn’t have the qualities that were needed for this, I was not even close to being the Christ-like woman that they needed me to be. Lastly, I did the dreaded comparison. The only woman that I knew at this meeting was perfect. She was prayerful, beautiful, and Christ-filled ALL THE TIME. I would never measure up to that. Why on earth did they invite me to participate?
Why is it so hard for me to see the good qualities in myself?
I took a step back (in my mind not in my car) and thought about all the bible studies I have done recently that have talked about the danger of comparisons.
Psalm 139:13-14 You created every part of me; you put me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because you are to be feared; all you do is strange and wonderful. I know it with all my heart.
If the psalmist is correct, then EVERYTHING GOD MAKES IS WONDERFUL.
Genesis 1:27 So God created human beings, making them to be like himself. He created them male and female
And in Genesis, God created all things to be just like Him. We are uniquely made in God’s own image. He created us to be gifted and special in order to do His work. The gifts that I don’t naturally have, someone else does. When we tap into these gifts, we all make the perfect combination.
What does that mean?
It means that the wonderful Christ-like person that I fear will not like me has gifts that I don’t. BUT I have gifts that she needs too. Together, we can do amazing things for God. When I let go of my envy, pride and insecurities, I will find that she needs me and I need her. Of course, all of this only works if we are both spending daily time with God.
Comparisons will make life miserable. Those lies we tell ourselves only create more lies until we think we are unworthy of doing God’s work or any work for that matter! Don’t dwell on comparisons, because that only leads to insecurities. Dwell on your gifts. Pray for God to lead you. Share your gifts with others to make the perfect team for God.