I am amazed at the people around me that persevere through difficult situations. I am also in awe that God finds such great people to help me when I am desperate for strength. As we sat at the closing table yesterday (we finally closed the sale on our old house), I reflected on how I had handled the move – mostly financially.
It was hard to look at my footsteps the last few weeks. Yes, I had persevered through it, but I was left with a migraine beyond belief (something I never had suffered through before). I think a lot of my headache was due to the illness (which I finally received antibiotics for yesterday), but some of it was stress. It was the stress of “owning” two homes at the same time, paying bills at two different locations, and catering to my own sickness as well as my kids. It seemed like no matter what problems arose in the last 3 weeks, it ALWAYS had something to do with money.
Finances are stressful. No wonder moving is right up there with one of the most stressful events in a person’s life. Moving is all about finances, and finances are STRESSFUL. What I learned yesterday is my husband deals with financial crunches a lot better than me. I stress out, he finds solutions. So this morning when I realized that I needed to pay our family bills (and my head was still pounding), I asked Pete to do it for me. He was so excited! I always pay the bills, and I think he was happy that I would let him take this over for me (just for today). He has been trying to help me more around the house, and I finally gave him a job that didn’t involve fixing a toilet or putting up a shelf. WHOOPEE!!!
So I did persevere through the struggles of moving, but I did so by asking others for help. It wasn’t necessarily just me running the race – it was a relay of sorts. This happened throughout my move. When I became completely exhausted or overly anxious, I allowed someone else to take over. This is certainly not typical for me and by no means was it easy. I allowed people to make dinners for me (they were so AWESOME). I allowed people to decorate my house (my sister is the best)! I allowed people to move my personal belongings. I allowed people to pay bills when I dreaded looking at our financials! When you are involved in a stressful situation, think of it as a relay event. Each team member has the chance to take over where the last one left off. When Megan runs the 4 x 400 relay, I watch her run until she just cannot breathe another breath. She moves the fastest I have ever seen. She knows when she hands over that baton; her teammate will take over where she left off. They endure the most possible for a limited time, knowing that the next person will do the same. They trust in each other.
God will provide you with a relay team, but you have to trust in God and trust in His choices for your teammates. You also have to relinquish the baton. Perseverance is granted by God in many ways. Don’t assume it will be given only to you. Trust that others around you can support and help you in tremendous ways.